Gender Has Been Complicated for Me

Cw: discussion of sex/gender, cisheterosexism, etc.

I should first note that this is not a scholarly piece. I’m not a scholar and I really don’t like most queer scholars I read because, well, I won’t go into it. What I’m describing is solely my experience and I write for my own healing but if it’s beneficial to someone else, that is also really great! This is my personal perspective and experience only and is not a “gender/queer studies” piece.

Gayness and queerness wasn’t popularly represented in my childhood. When it was represented, it was a…