The Manifestations of Codependency

Characteristics of Codependency: https://bestbookshub.com/best-books-on-codependency/

I argue we live in a codependent society.

Two hearts unhappily attached. (dreamstime.com)

Substance is whatever device or devices a codependent uses to fulfill their void. It could be drugs, alcohol, family members, partners, children, careers, volunteer work, pets, money, wealth, fame, celebrity worship, sex, gambling or a combination thereof.

  • Low self-esteem (✓)
  • People pleasing (✓)
  • Poor boundaries (✓)
  • Reactivity (✓)
  • Caretaking (✓)
  • Control (✓)
  • Dysfunctional communication
  • Obsessions (✓)
  • Dependency (✓)
  • Issues with intimacy (✓)
  • Painful/overwhelming emotions (✓)

I like to define codependency into two categories: respectable codependence and non-respectable codependence.

Some of the language is outdated and cringey — but a decent read.

And as such, dislocation leads to an absence of an enduring or sustaining connection between individuals and their families, communities and/or societies.

The workaholic is often admired — but its just respectable codependency.

The hard work is examining how this society’s ill permeates throughout all of the society — and how we all are impacted by it, directly or indirectly, in our familial relationships, friendships, romantic relationships, careers and our daily lives.

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Angel D’Angelo

Angel D’Angelo

I’m not an expert or scholar on anything. I mainly write for me. If others see it, and love it, great :)

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